Essay: emma friary
The Relationship Between the Universe and a Peach
People have incredibly low expectations for themselves. They look at the people in history, the people they admire in the media, the people they have only ever dreamed of becoming and instead think it to be a dream. They make excuses. “They had opportunities I didn’t.” “There can only be one *insert name*.”
They watch people on social media make money out of nothing, brands out of something, publish novels and articles and their work and they wonder how they could do so. And then don’t take the steps to do so. There are thousands of books and articles screaming the different ways to meet success and people refuse to take the initiative and do so for themselves. They would rather watch life pass them by and be negative about their life experience. They settle for less than they deserve and know they deserve more, leading more and more into a vicious cycle of “I know I could be doing better and I’m standing here with all the supplies and a goddamn hammer and this pile of sticks won’t make itself into a house.”
T. S. Eliot wrote a poem called, “The Love Poem of J. Alfred Prufrock” about a man who measured out his life in coffee spoons and wouldn’t talk to anyone for fear they would not like him. He questions everything and wonders to himself “Do I dare disturb the universe?” as well as “Do I dare eat a peach?” The answers are ridiculous because they are both yes but they are viewed as being of the same importance. The narrator and the readers know the ridiculous nature of being afraid of life and its endless possibilities. Yet the narrator does not change and people do not change and instead stare down the endlessly long hallway filled with doors, refusing to knock or check to see if any are unlocked. The hallway is safe and it’s easier to not move and know that nothing will hurt you. As you block out the things that could hurt you, you block out the things that could help you.
Things do not always work out as planned, but the goal in life should be to not let life pass you by, and instead, to open as many doors as possible. I would rather live a life where I look back wincing instead of one where my worries were whether or not to eat a peach.
about the writer: emma friary
Emma Friary is an undergraduate at FSU planning on pursuing her Masters through the school. She draws inspiration from her travels and experiences as well as her favorite novels. Emma’s goal is to publish a book and travel back to Europe in the next year.